Role #1 African American Woman

Okay ladies so the 1st role I identify with is that of being an African American woman. After much thought, my personal definition of the African American woman is a woman who is beautiful, strong, determined, self-reliant, soulful, burdened, nurturing, misunderstood, resilient, creative and highly intelligent. Now when compared to societies definition of African American women, it seems the overall consensus among some of our African American men and members of other races is that we are loud, hateful, lazy, spiteful and just down right ignorant. To me this seems like harsh opinion of African American woman that a good number of people have, but when I look at some of the examples that people have to base their opinion on I say can we blame them? For example, let's take a look at the ladies in this video feed.





After viewing this video, can you really blame some people for their opinion? Even though, women like this may give us a bad rap, I choose to stick with my definition of the African American woman. So now that I defined what an African American woman is.....what do I do to improve myself in this role? Well lets break it down, if a black woman is beautiful then that means there's no need to wear clothes that look like they belong in the bedroom instead of outside because my beauty is so deep that just a glance from my eyes would make a grown man weak. If we are strong, that means that I no longer should let petty people, things or situations alter my mood because I am the calm in the midst of a storm. If we are determined, then I can no longer get veered off my path of success, I can't let excuses hinder my progression.

If black woman are self-reliant than I can no longer look to a man or any other to validate my happiness or self-worth (time for some self love and motivation). If African American women are nurturing then when I tend to my children and others it should be handled with patience, care and sincerity. To better express my resilience as an African American woman, I will practice on bouncing back from disappointments and setbacks with more optimism and vigor. Finally if African American women are highly intelligent then when I speak, I will speak with proper English at all times and refrain from cursing and use words that will effectively get my point across without being vulgar.

As a result, I will take the following specific steps over the next few weeks to master this role: 1. Always dress to impress from head to toe in order to accentuate my natural beauty. 2. Maintain a positive mood in the midst of frustrations to display my strength. 3. Set up a strategic plan to carry out my personal and professional goals and carrying out each step regardless of the road blocks that will come. 4. I will be less concerned about other people's opinion of me and their validation while giving myself an extra dose of love. 5. To enhance my nurturing side I will take more quality time with my children and seek out opportunities to help those around me. 6. Finally, I will take every available moment to further educate myself, whether it be through reading books or taking a class from time to time. To express my intellect I will consistently present myself in a manner that will make my intelligence unquestionable.

So share with me your thoughts! What's your definition of African American women? What steps will you take to enhance this role? If your not African American apply it to your own culture and let me know what you come up with!

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Identifying Who You Are

Okay, so as women we realize that our roles in society and at home are always changing and evolving right? Well, what exactly are those roles? I realize that I can't truly work on mastering being the woman of the many roles that I am until I actually identify what those roles are. So let's see, I recognize myself to be all of the following roles: African American woman, a Christian, a wife, a lover, a mother, a sister, a daughter, a friend, a teacher, a striving entrepreneur, a neighbor and mentor. In all these roles, I believe there is room for improvement. Look at your own list of roles. Can you identify areas in need of improvement? Some people may ask why strive for mastery of all roles? Some may interpret mastery as perfection and perfection most times is impossible. The answer I give those statements is this: It is better to strive for perfection than to settle for a misrepresentation of the best you! Think about it. When you're at your best, your self esteem is boosted, you're generally more happy all around and others are also more receptive to you! Now that roles have been identified, you should now take each one and define what that role means to you and then compare your definition with societies definition. Do the definitions match? If not, you must determine for yourself what best defines that role for you. You won't be able to master that particular role until you have a personal understanding of what is expected! Throughout my next blogs I will be breaking down my identified roles and finding meaning in them, then I will be taking specific steps to improve each role in my life. Are you willing to go on this self discovery with me? Make your list let's share, compare and Master together!!!!!